Hey - single momma. The right one for you will be right for the both of you.
In my ten years as a single momma, I learned how to take care of myself and my child. Our village has been super supportive, but I've worked hard to own my responsibility as Zoe's momma. Zoe and I found our rhythm as a family of two. I'd long resolved that we had to learn how to do that - be a family on our own. Any relationship would have to fit. And fit, this one did, for both of us.
But it took some time.
The husband and I took our time. He's never seemed foreign to Zoe, but Zoe had found her rhythm with her momma as her momma had with her. A man? With mom?! Nah...🤣 Mom was hers, not meant to be shared. It took her some time, but one day she realized that mom's person might be someone worth her attention, too.
We let her take her time.
I've never been the kind of woman that assumed that marriage would fix all of our problems, make life easier. I've been raised around too many beautiful unions to believe that lie. Taking our time to find our own rhythm, to adapt, to learn, felt natural for me. And it seemed natural for Zoe, too.
Time - what a sweet precious gift.
We're finding a new groove as a new family, but building that foundation began long before July 31, 2020.
Single momma, be whole. Embrace the gift of time. If he's the right one for you, he'll be the right one for both of you.
And time will tell.